Board of Directors
A board of directors? For me? Only large companies form "BOD's" don't they? Well, why not you? Medium and large firms pay the brightest and best to hold them accountable. They have a desire to have those with varied skills understand their business and volunteer their wisdom, experience, and knowledge to guide, direct, and bless their business plans.
So why not have a personal board of directors? If you don't consider yourself a priceless investment, you should! We all know people we would like to consider as mentors. However, how often do we take the time to meet with them on a consistent basis, ask them for honest feedback, and be asked to be held accountable? Proverbs 27:6 states "Wounds from a friend are better than kisses from an enemy".
Who should I ask to be on my board of directors? I would suggest you get a variety of individuals that can assist you in all areas of your life. For example, why not have a board of directors that counsels you in the areas of faith, financial, career, health, parenting, and being the best you can be? Having 3-7 individuals counsel you should be a goal in your life. One other thing to consider is not being afraid/intimidated to approach individuals you admire believing that they may be too busy or operate at a different/higher level than you. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, most people are honored to be asked and will give up a small amount of time for a breakfast meeting or a monthly phone call on a consistent basis. You just need to ask!
How often should I meet with my Board? It depends? There are some that you may wish to meet with weekly, some monthly, some quarterly, and some bi-annually. For example, my wife and I meet with our Financial Counselor quarterly. We get an update on our financial situation. We discuss desires, dreams, and ask for honest advice regarding what sacrifices and strategies we need to pursue. Renowned businessman Jim Rohn once said, "You're the average of the five people you spend most of your time with." You may not spend the majority of your time with your mentors, however, getting elite advice and counsel from those you admire most will undoubtably keep you accountable and challenged with sage advice.
Types of Mentors:
What about an accountability partner that you meet with once or twice monthly. Possibly someone who needs someone (like you) to talk to about issues that might be uncomfortable in another setting?
Possibly someone you really admire and would like to better understand how and where he gets the strength and knowledge to be a good husband, father, businessman, etc.
Obviously, trust is crucial. You may elect to belong to a small group with several mentors. I might suggest however keeping the group fairly small. This typically invites deeper and more trusting conversations.
Finding a financial counselor can be tricky. This might come in the form of someone you know that has a strong background in finance and handles their finances in a way you admire.
It might be a financial planner that charges a flat fee. I might suggest someone that is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and comes highly recommended.
In my experience, I've always tried to find someone that is at senior level in the community and is widely respected. Again, don't be intimidated that they won't have the time. If they don't, they will be honest with you. But you won't know if you don't ask.
Another consideration is someone who is retired. They have experience and in many cases the time to sit down and discuss their life experiences. This could definitely be a "win-win" for both of you.
Many health clubs offer personal trainers. Again, finding the right one can be tricky. And although this can be an expensive option, they often understand nutrition, physical fitness, and the various forms of exercise that can add flexibility, strength, and an acceptable body fat index.
The important thing to remember for health, find someone (or something) that is sustainable. Keeping a health regimen is the hardest resolution to keep. Finding a program that fits you is critical.
Another mentor to consider is a certified food nutritionist. Finding a qualified nutritionist is hard however, personal trainers and/or the internet often times will find specialist in your community.
What about a good physician? Do you have someone you see on a consistent basis? If not, you should include your personal physician as a mentor.
There are MANY life coaches that have entered the business over the past several years. Their cost (and experience) will vary as will their area of expertise. I know some life coaches who specialize in purpose, stress reduction, leadership, etc.
Having used several coaches, they do offer tremendous value in breaking down personal barriers and challenging you to overcome obstacles. They offer books, advice, and hold you accountable for results. Many coaches will offer 3 month sessions and you can then decide how best to proceed from there.
My Personal Board of Directors
What good is it for one blind man to lead another. How can a student know more than the teacher: But if he works hard, he may learn as much. (Luke 6:39-40)
Plans go wrong with too few counselors; Many counselors bring success. (Proverbs 15:22)